So today I feel I need to focus on a feeling I have more than semi regularly; the feeling that I don’t know where I’m going in my life! Well realistically, I’m just going forward, we all are. But sometimes it does feel like you’re stuck too much in a rut, or are going completely off course. This can be a difficult feeling to handle, especially when you’re nearing a deadline, or are feeling building pressure from outside sources, but it is manageable.
Firstly, you need to remember that its not everyone else’s life, its yours. Yeah, your parents might be expecting you to have graduated by now and not taking your final module for a third time, and yeah your friends are all getting married or having babies and you’re still ordering a sharing bucket from KFC for one, but its cool. You’re really not the only one in the world who isn’t where they planned to be at this point in their lives, and you won’t be the last.
Next, just remember that it might not be right for you at that time! I for one, am really looking forward to getting engaged and married. Everyone knows it. And I really thought I’d be at that point in my life by now. But I’m not, and I’m starting to realize that its completely ok. You see, in my opinion, its all about enjoying the moment. There is no way I could afford to get married and have kids AND buy a house without sacrificing things like my Black Milk addiction. I just don’t earn enough money and I think I’ve realized I’m a little too selfish right now. Sometimes things don’t work out how you, or anyone else expected, but that’s ok. Its more than ok, its great. Its spontaneous, its life, and its definitely not boring!
Lastly, just remember what you do have. Not happy with you what you’ve got? Make a plan and start changing things! Can’t change the thing that’s the problem? Work on the other aspects of your life. I know there are horrible things that cannot be changed for love nor money, but the more positive you are as a whole, the more positive you’ll feel and the negative feelings won’t feel as bad. In fact, you might start to realize you’d miss what you thought you hated.
Yeah I know this all sounds cheesy, trust me, if I was reading this, I would think so too. But in my experience, it really does work! When I was single, I stopped focusing on the fact that I was 21 and had never had a proper boyfriend. I started focusing on what I wanted in other parts of my life and the world came through! 5 and a half years later, I’m still with the best guy on the planet. When I left uni I thought I’d never work in photography. I just had zero confidence in my abilities. I resigned myself to work in hospitality and almost left photography completely behind. But here I am now, sitting at my desk, in my own office, working an amazing job that I love, in the photography department of a university.
I suppose the point I’m getting at is, enjoy life. If you’re not, do your best to make changes, even if they’re only minor. It could be a complete career change. It could be doing 10 minutes of yoga in the morning. It could be as simple as switching from whole milk to semi skimmed. But you’ll never know the changes you can make to your life with out giving it a go!